Why Is He Acting Distant All Of A Sudden? - Romancoholic

Why Is He Acting Distant All Of A Sudden?

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Until recently everything was fine, but lately your man seems to be pulling away. You wonder why is he acting distant all of a sudden?

We've all been there. And the feeling is not pleasant at all.

You feel confused and helpless because you don't know why your boyfriend is suddenly behaving that way. You don't know if it's your fault and, worst of all, you don't know what to do to fix the situation and have him all over you again

So, most of us do the only logical thing in that moment: we start panicking and imagining the worst scenarios in our head.

But before you start to panic, you need to cover your bases and figure out why your man is being so distant. And trust me, there can be so many reasons for this behavior that don't include that worst case scenario.

Let's deal with the most important question: Why is he acting distant all of a sudden?

He's mad at you.

He just might be mad at you for something you said or did recently.

Or maybe he doesn't want to fight you so he's sulking and ignoring the problem until he cools off.

In this case, you don't need to worry too much. But it might be useful to think about what you might have done to make him mad and try to apologize or talk it over until you're on the same page again. 

He thinks you're mad at him.

It could also be the other way around. Maybe you had an argument that led him to believe you're still angry at him.

Since men tend to avoid conflict, he may be distant because he wants to give you time and space to get over the fight without really talking about it.

Just make sure to show him that you're not mad at him anymore and things should be back to normal in no time. 

He's losing interest.

I know you don’t want to hear this but pulling away often means that a guy is slowly losing interest in you. There are many reasons for this.

Maybe the honeymoon period is over and he's realizing that you're not exactly what he wants or, if it's a long-term relationship, he may be ready to call it quits.

This scenario is truly devastating and that's why us girls tend to live in denial for a while. We know in our gut what's going on but we're hoping we're being paranoid.

Trust me, in this situation it's best to rip the band-aid off. Confront him and find out if it's time to move on. 

He's afraid of commitment.

A lot of guys are afraid of commitment, so when they feel they're starting to catch feelings for you or that things are getting serious, they tend to pull away.

The problem with this is that you can't really do much to fix the situation because no matter what you do, this man is simply not mature enough to commit at the moment.

If you suspect this is why he's acting cold, you can try to talk it over, but you probably won't get very far. 

He's stressed.

We all react differently to stress. Some of us want to be surrounded by friends and loved ones and others just want to be left alone.

Your boyfriend may just be stressed and he wants to handle it by himself.

If you know he's going through a stressful situation, tell him you're there for him, offer to cheer him up when he needs it, but also give him space to deal with the stress in his own way. 

He's cheating.

When you’re asking yourself why is he acting distant all of a sudden, cheating is probably the scariest answer that comes to mind.

And I'm not going to lie to you, it's a genuine possibility.

But don't let yourself jump to conclusions too fast and attack him for cheating without any reason.

First, look for red flags in his behavior, like being too busy all the time, guarding his phone, disappearing for hours, and so on. Make sure your suspicions add up. 

He's busy.

We all have hectic schedules that can get in the way and even ruin our relationships if we're not careful.

If your boyfriend has a lot on his plate right now, maybe he's just having trouble balancing his work and personal life.

This situation could just be temporary so have patience and give him some time to handle his business.

But if it has been going on for a while, you will need to tell him what's bothering you and try to make time for each other. 

He's depressed.

Even the people who seem happiest around others can suffer from depression.

If he's not just being distant but also has trouble sleeping and eating, or he doesn't enjoy things he used to love and barely wants to go outside, these could be signs of depression.

In this case, he actually needs you more than you think. You need to learn how to help him in the right way.

Show him you're there for him, be patient and understanding about his behavior and actively encourage him to seek professional help.

He has doubts about the relationship.

While you’re sitting at home thinking why is he acting distant all of a sudden, he may be having doubts of his own.

Men are just as insecure as we are, they just show it in a different way. While we like to talk things through, they’d rather distance themselves and let the doubts consume them.

As the relationship progresses, he may be worried that you want different things in life, that he's not good enough for you, or that you're not the one.

The best solution is to encourage him to talk to you and share these doubts to see if you're moving in the same direction.

As you can see, there are many reasons why your man could be acting cold and distant. Once you figure out why he's acting that way, you will know what to do next.

And how are you going to do that?

Well, here's the magic recipe for quickly clearing up your doubts and getting your relationship back on track: talk to him. Just share your concerns with him and ask him why he's being distant lately.

Believe me, you won't find a better way to fix your problems and grow your relationship than through open and honest communication. 

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Amy Shaw

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