Should You Stop Texting Him To Get His Attention?

Should You Stop Texting Him To Get His Attention?

should you stop texting him to get his attention

You send him a message but a few moments later you get that sinking feeling.

You wonder if he will ignore this message again or take ages to write you back.

It’s clear that something’s not right.

You want him to focus on you, and only you, for just a few moments at the very least.

Should you stop texting him to get his attention?

Before we answer this question we need to look at some things you may be doing to sabotage your efforts.

Sins Of Texting

First make sure you’re not engaging in one of the terrible sins of texting behavior.

You know what I’m talking about, right?


So stop!

You have to maintain some discipline or you’ll just keep pushing him away.

Whether you’re in a relationship or hoping to make a guy all yours, avoid doing the following:

Do not text him to check in with him while he’s out with his friends. You’re not his mother.

He needs space and time away from you to learn about how absence makes the heart grow fonder.

If you text him when he needs guy-time he’ll start to feel like being with you is a chore.

Second, do not try to discuss something important in a text message when it should be done in person.

This one is tempting.

You might have discovered something improper he did, or something unrelated to him.

Either way, wait until you’re with him again before discussing it.

Or, at the very least, speak to him on the phone about it.

If you message him regularly and the content is often negative, or you being angry at something, he’ll come to associate your text messages with a bad feeling.

Every time he sees your name on the screen he’ll unconsciously recall the negative emotions he experienced previously.

That’s the last thing you want to happen.

He needs to see your messages and smile. But more about that later.

Examine Your Current Texting Habits

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This is key to understanding where you’re going wrong.

Think about it for a second.

You’re meeting some really nice guys, but you notice that things fizzle out over time.

You can’t figure out what’s going wrong time and time again.

You’ve got to look at how you’re communicating to him.

And maybe your husband or boyfriend just doesn’t seem as interested in responding to as he used to.

You remember the early days of your time together, and how he seemed to write you back instantly. Where did it all go wrong?

See if this applies to you:

Do you answer yes to any of the following questions?

Have you already texted and he hasn’t responded?

By this I mean that this happens regularly. He seems to take forever to write you back. You may even see his status as online even as your message is still marked as unread.

Are you usually the person to text first?

And here I mean that your communication is not about something important, but rather idle conversation.

It’s the kind of chit-chat not related to important information you need, e.g. what time to meet or what to pick up from the store.

Whether you answered yes to one or both questions, it’s time to change your tactics.

(And be sure to check out some of the other signs you should stop texting him to get his attention.)

The great benefit with this is understanding the link between your actions and their results.

The even better news is that by adopting a new way of texting you will overcome your current difficulties.

The Recipe For Texting Success

texting success

When it comes to gaining your man’s full attention, you have two options.

The first is tick most of the boxes. (The second option is just below)

To do this you have to change your current habits.

Of course, you’re going to totally avoid the sins mentioned in the first part of this article.

And next you’re going to make sure you focus on these two points:

If you always text first, from now on you will wait until he texts.

If he waits a long time to respond to you, you will take equally as long.

As a general rule, do the opposite of what you’re currently doing (that isn’t working), and/or copy his texting behavior.

So, should you stop texting him to get his attention?

Yes and no. It’s going to depend on how the above applies to you, and how he responds.

You’ll soon notice whether your change of texting habit has the desired effect. The guy you’re dating might actually not be that into you, and things will indeed fizzle out.

But that’s a good thing. You can’t make him like you.

Now you’re free to meet better men.

And what’s the second option?

It’s to tick all of the boxes.

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Not bad, considering how you’re starting from a position where you can’t even get him to respond right now.

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About the author

Alex Andrews

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