Let’s not beat around the bush (excuse the pun), masturbation and orgasms feel great!
However, masturbation seems to still be a taboo topic in a relationship, often leading partners to feel that self-pleasure must mean unfulfilled or inadequate sex life. But that is so far from the truth.
Studies (yes, real medical & scientific studies) have proven that women who engage in regular autoeroticism (just a fancy word for masturbation) are more likely to have a much more fulfilled sex life!
So here’s why fulfilling your own sexual needs will lead to a much more satisfying sex life.
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1. It Promotes Self Exploration
The female orgasm is actually ALL about pleasure and has nothing to do with making babies.
But often women don’t even know how to achieve that magical orgasm. And if you do not know how, how is your partner to know how to satisfy you?
This is where self-exploration comes in – taking the time to learn what feels good, where you feel sensations, and how to make yourself moan, enhances your ability to climax and helps you to direct your partner in the correct direction.
2. Self-pleasure As a Stress Relief & Healing
Self-pleasure has been proven to alleviate stress and make you feel happier.
From the moment you begin to masturbate, there is an increase in serotonin, oxytocin, and dopamine in your brain. These are known as the “happy” or “feel good” hormones, which help to reduce stress-like symptoms and effects- they decrease blood pressure and produce feelings of love and bonding.
In addition, there is a link between pleasure and health, which means self-pleasure can lead to higher immunoglobulin levels. Immunoglobulin is the most common antibody in blood and fights off any illnesses.
So decreased stress and good health mean increased libido (sex drive). Yes, that means more sex!
3. Promotes Healthier Self-Image
Spending time giving yourself and your body some love and pleasure is an incredibly sensual experience.
By regularly repeating this sensual practice, you will feel sexier, you will feel more confident and the decreased stress that you will experience from autoeroticism has the potential to increase your self-esteem considerably.
Feeling sensual and confident on your own really translates to how you will feel when you are in bed with someone else – awakening the sexual goddess within. And with that newfound confidence, here are some tips on How to Initiate Sex.
4. Increases Pain Threshold
Another hormonal change in your body while masturbating is the release of pain-reducing substances, which increase your pain threshold. This means that masturbation can help with menstrual cramps or any other bodily pains and aches.
Additionally, this tolerance to pain opens up a whole new world of S&M (sadomasochism) / BDSM (bondage and discipline, dominance and submission), which you can experiment with on your own, or with your partner.
5. Gets You Out Of Your Head
Let’s face it, today’s fast-paced world has us constantly thinking. Thinking about work, thinking about what we need to do when we get home, thinking about plans we need to make, thinking about our family, thinking about our future, etc.
Taking time to explore and pleasure yourself, can help you to learn to enjoy and live in the moment, rather than in your head.
By practicing this regularly, you will more easily be able to be present during sex, able to enjoy the moment, feel the sensations throughout your body, and have a truly fulfilled and magical sexual experience.
6. Pleasuring Yourself Increases Sex Drive
The more sex you have the more you will want!
The same can be said for anything that provides you with a sense of pleasure. Remember the first time you ate the most scrumptious pasta dish, and then could not stop thinking about it? Well, sexual pleasure is exactly like that!
An increased sex drive or libido leads to a willingness to not only have sex but have good sex. To have sex that works for you and feels damn good!
7. Masturbation Helps Achieve Multiple Orgasms
An orgasm is great, but have you ever had multiple orgasms?
Yes, men can do cool things, but women are able to have not 1, not 2, but multiple orgasms in a row! So why are some women not experiencing this?
By taking the time to understand your body, teaching your mind to switch off and enjoy the moment, you give yourself a greater chance of experiencing recurring orgasms.
And you know what they say – practice makes perfect! So learning how to achieve those sensational multiple orgasms solo, will increase the chances of achieving many, many orgasms during sex.
8. Explores New Fantasies
Without the pressure of trying to please someone else, you have the opportunity to make sex and pleasure all about yourself.
This gives you a unique opportunity to research some interesting and new sexual fantasies and experiment, with no pressure or judgment. Through this, you can learn what gets your juices flowing and introduce those newly found fantasies into the bedroom with someone else.
Knowing what you want and how you want it is one of the sexiest things ever! A real game-changer in the bedroom.
9. Strengthens Pelvic Muscles
Did you know you can “exercise” your vagina? Well, your pelvic muscles. And stronger pelvic muscles lead to better sex (for you and your partner) and amazing orgasms.
When masturbating your muscles contract and there is an increased flow of blood, which naturally exercises and strengthens your pelvic floor.
However, if you really want to take things to the next level, you can also engage in Kegel exercises while masturbating. It’s as simple as contracting your pelvis a number of times and holding the contraction for a few seconds.
This can even be done with a toy (dildo, vibrator, or kegel balls) inside of your cervix.
And then after all that practice, let your partner enjoy your kegel exercises while he is inside of you.
10. Pleasuring Yourself Not Only For “Solo Play”
Mix things up and masturbate for your partner or with your partner (mutual masturbation).
Self-pleasure doesn’t always have to be something you do in the privacy of your own bed or bathroom, sometimes an audience is great! Great for you and great for the audience. And here are a few extra ways to spice things up with your partner – New Things To Try In Bed
There are so many benefits to masturbation – from physical to psychological. But one thing that is clear, taking the time to learn how to pleasure yourself will definitely upgrade your sex life.
Every single woman deserves to know this and deserves to enjoy the pleasure of loving and satisfying herself!
