When it comes to pleasing your man and making sure he’s happy, getting kinky is always a solid choice.
But it’s not easy coming up with kinky sex ideas when you’re inexperienced in the art of frisky bedtime romps.
Thankfully, we’re here to help. If you feel like your sex life is boring or just want to change things up for fun, here are some ideas to put away the boring and get kinky.
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1. Sex toys
This is really the first step many take toward getting kinky in bed. It’s not that big of a stretch form your normal routine, but it offers something different and erotic.
If you’re new to sex toys altogether, figure out which will be best for the both of you.
Go to a sex store together and even talk to an attendant. It might feel a little weird at first, but they’re there to help you choose something that fits yours needs.
What a sex toy does is increase the excitement and pleasure all around. There are many multi-purpose toys out there that will be perfect for you and your man to use together.
2. Restraints
This is definitely moving up the kink ladder. You might think restraints like handcuffs or ties are a little intense, but that’s kind of the point with anything on the freakier side.
It’s meant to hold one of you down so the other can go to work.
When you can’t touch your man or he can’t touch you, things get indefinitely more exciting. Start by just tying his hands to the bedpost and go from there.
Having complete control over his pleasure will be more arousing to you than you think.
3. Wild positions
If you’re looking to keep things interesting without going overboard, this is definitely for you.
Since there aren’t really any additives, it’s easier to try and a great starting place if you’re both shy.
Look up some wild positions and try them out together. You never know which could become your new favorite.
Plus, you’ll bond a lot closer when you can laugh off the ridiculous ones that both look and feel funny.
4. Wild places
Instead of having sex in your bed for the umpteenth time, go somewhere else. You’d be surprised how erotic sex can be when you take it out of the bedroom.
Not only does it feel exciting because it’s new, but it also gives you new opportunities for positions that don’t work when you just have sex on your bed.
For example, if you take things to the kitchen, you can make great use of the table and counter. Moving to your balcony can offer a fantastic view along with amazing sensations.
Get outside your comfort zone for this one and you’ll get really kinky.
5. Naughty role-playing
One of the many kinky sex ideas you should definitely try is role-playing. It doesn’t take much to go get a fun little costume and dress up for your man.
You can even choose something you know he loves–like a maid or even Wonder Woman if he’s into super heroes.
When you get to put yourself in someone else’s shoes and be someone else altogether, it allows you to broaden your sexual horizon and try things you might not normally do by yourself.
If you want to start very simple, just go out to a bar and pretend to be strangers. Make up your own persona and stick with it the whole night.
6. Play up his fantasies
We all have fantasies and that means your man does too.
It’s important to ask him what he fantasizes about and make an effort to bring some of those things to life, provided you’re comfortable with them, that is.
This is a fantastic way to get kinky because we often fantasize about things that are a bit more extreme and naughty that what we do in real life.
He could want something really dirty that involves a lot of kink on your end. And don’t forget that you can ask him to play up your fantasies too.
7. Go down on him only for the entire time
Not only is this a fantastic way to treat your man and please him thoroughly, it’s also pretty kinky. There are a lot of ways to give him a handjob or blowjob that’ll make him be in awe of you.
Remember there are different positions for these things too. You don’t have to just be on your knees while he stands.
You can have him lay down, you can lie on your side, you can even do 69 if he really wants to please you as well.
Don’t forget to use your hands! Grope, squeeze, and make him love it.
8. Use blindfolds
Do you know what happens when you can’t see? Your other senses are heightened. That means you feel things more intensely when you have a blindfold on.
And so does your man. If you really want to make things kinky, put a blindfold on him while you do naughty things to him.
You can even blindfold and restrain him for double the kink and double the erotic torture.
9. Do whatever he wants you to
Play a game together. He tells you to do something, and you do it. You can even play dom-sub for a night where he dominates you completely and you can’t do anything without his permission.
This is not only a great way to see what your man actually wants but is normally too afraid to ask for, but it also gives you a guaranteed way to make him happy and please him in bed.
Just remember to use a safe word if you really don’t want to perform something and start out simple with this.
Who knows? You might even like being submissive more than you think.
Getting kinky can be as simple as talking really dirty to your man or as complex as some serious role-playing.
And learning to talk dirty is a lot easier than you imagine.
