No.
Was that enough to make you close your browser and go about your day, feeling more at ease?
Probably not. And that’s a good thing.
Even today, porn is frowned upon for many reasons. Some of them are grounded in truth, but some, like the one we deal with today, are not.
Many people are quick to decide that their relationship ended because one partner watched porn, leaving the other feel neglected and unloved.
I disagree.
And I suspect it’s even good for your relationship.
Want to know why watching adult movies is not cheating?
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We humans are curious animals
We’re curious about everything and anything. Sex is no different.
Some like to experiment in bed in the wildest ways.
Others don’t and turn instead to porn.
Since we were kids, porn has been a fascinating, alien thing that triggered primal feelings inside us.
Boys knew that watching porn was okay, but girls were told that it’s not in their nature, and kind of shameful.
Hence your feeling that porn in a relationship is bad, and the same as cheating.
But honestly…
Men and women don’t have to be that different
Sometimes you’ll feel that if you watch porn, it’s cheating.
But ask yourself this: if your man watches it, do you feel like he is cheating on you?
If the answer is yes, it could strike at the root of your problem.
This kind of thinking hints at a problem relating to yourself, not your man.
Confidence and trust issues can surface in ways we never expect them to.
Have you considered maybe he watches porn just to learn more about how to fuck like a pornstar?
Doesn’t it mean you don’t love your man?
Absolutely not.
Let me share a secret:
Porn satisfies the need for the physical, not the emotional.
If you don’t believe me, there’s always science to back up my claim.
In this study, a large number of couples reported porn having no ill-effects on their relationship.
But it does come with a disclaimer–porn is harmless so long as the habit remains moderate.
The bad news, though…
…is that pornography comes with a dark, often hidden, side.
An increase in watching adult content indicates that something in your sex life is missing.
In these situations, men get addicted to it when they can no longer connect emotionally. Women get addicted out of insecurity and uncertainty.
And yes, porn accelerates the end of already failing relationships or marriages.
If you fear that your porn habit is the symptom of a deteriorating sex life, let me offer some advice.
How to make the best out of pornography:
1. Practice your lusty vocabulary
Work on a sexy, sultry voice that will bathe his brain in pure ecstasy.
Share some of your most intimate fantasies, or enact your favorite porn scenes with him.
Then watch him melt in your hands like butter.
Not sure how to pull it off?
Don’t worry, we got you covered.
2. Talk about porn; it’s incredibly sexy!
And, to be honest, sometimes funny.
Talking from my own experience here. In all my previous relationships, the topic of porn was a no-brainer.
Some of our most intimate conversations evolved from the kind of pornographic content we prefer, to our views on sex overall as well as intimacy.
It’s fun to learn what your partner likes (as long as it doesn’t raise any red flags).
And men love it too.
Since there is a stigma that women are repulsed by adult movies, him learning that you sneak a peek every now and then gives you bonus points on his “cool girlfriend” scale.
3. Watch porn together
Sure, it might be a little uncomfortable at first, but it gets easier (and hotter).
Talk to your man, and find out what he likes. Then share your preferences, and find a common ground.
Or, if you can’t, watch a genre neither of you watched before.
If all else fails, you can always use the videos to laugh, or be baffled by the wide array of fetishes out there.
Reduce the negativity around watching porn. You’ll both be much more relaxed and open about your sexuality.
4. Freshen up your sex life
Many articles online advise on how to add a “new coat of paint” to the bedroom, so I’ll keep this short and sweet:
· Look into BDSM. It’s not just for the weird or perverse. Some light BDSM can be enjoyed by anyone, so long as you prep thoroughly beforehand.
· Have sex outside of the bedroom, in other parts of the house, and even take it outside (if you so dare).
· Create your own secret sexy content by sexting every few days. Send naughty texts throughout the day, and get all worked up for the evening.
· Play on his fantasies. If you know what he likes, indulge him in one of his fantasies every now and then. When it comes to action in bed, men can be wonderfully appreciative.
Don’t let the mass opinion fool you
Pornography is NOT bad.
Yes, it’s lewd, voyeuristic and can be misleading when it comes to real-life sex.
But porn is a tool used to relieve the tension of our sexual needs.
You aren’t lusting for another man, you’re lusting for relief.
And with that, if porn is the only way you can achieve relief, then there are other problems at play. Your sex life might not be fulfilling, and it’s something that has to be solved.
Just remember, your boyfriend wants to connect with you on a deep sexual level.
By learning to talk dirty with him, you’ll activate his largest sex organ…
His brain.
Dirty Talk Secrets has you covered with everything you need to know.
