One of the worst things to experience is when you come home from hanging out with him and think to yourself, I have a crush on my guy friend.
What are you supposed to do from there? This guy is just a friend and now you’ve developed real feelings for him.
It’s kind of a terrifying situation. You never really thought about him as more than a friend and now you have a crush on him!
So your next thoughts are probably along the lines of, “What the hell do I do now?”
Should you tell him? Should you just ignore it and hope it goes away? But what if he likes you back?!
It can be really scary and even confusing to know how you should approach the situation. Thankfully, we can help.
Here’s what to do if you have a crush on your guy friend.
1. Think deeply about how you really feel
You may not be accurately judging your true feelings. Sometimes a guy friend can do something that might make you see him in a romantic light, but only momentarily.
Sit back and really ask yourself what you think of him. Dive deep into your feelings and even compare them to how you’ve felt about previous boyfriends.
It could’ve just been a momentary lapse in judgment versus real feelings.
Don’t let one little thing cloud your feelings so much so that you make the mistake of pursuing something that’s not really accurate.
2. Ask yourself what qualities you like specifically
What made you have a crush on him? What are the qualities that you’re attracted to right now?
If you truly have feelings for him, this should be rather easy.
What you may find, however, is that you can’t list more than one or two qualities. If that’s the case, you may not really have many feelings and the crush could even be temporary.
On the flip side, listing off many qualities that you find attractive not only in him, but also in other guys you want to date may indicate that there’s something real there.
And if those qualities complement your own nicely, you may be a great match together!
3. Give it some time
A lot of crushes are fleeting. You feel great about him one day and a couple days later you no longer have any feelings for him.
You may even find that he does something rather repulsive and it quickly turns your crush platonic in a matter of seconds.
So just wait it out. Give yourself a couple weeks but don’t change anything between the two of you. Still hang out with him and pay attention to how you feel around him.
You may just realize that with a little time, the crush fades away. If it doesn’t, that may indicate some stronger feelings at play.
4. Picture yourself dating him
Sit down, close your eyes, and imagine that you’re dating him. Picture going on dates, being intimate, and treating him like an actual boyfriend instead of a friend.
Then open your eyes and take note of the immediate feelings that stir.
Is it excitement? Nervousness? Or is it something much less impactful and maybe even negative?
It’s one thing to have a crush on a guy, it’s another to actually want to date him. If you can’t picture yourself with him in a romantic way, the crush will probably fade away rather quickly.
5. Turn on the charm around him
So you’ve decided that your feelings are completely real. You’ve realized I have a crush on my guy friend and you can actually picture you two as a real couple.
But now what?
Now, it’s time to take things up a notch and turn on the charm.
The reason for this is purely to see if he bites. You really never know if a guy friend likes you unless you just go for it to see where he lands.
Start flirting with him. Show more interest and even initiate some contact like hugging or even bumping into him.
Make some suggestive jokes just to see if he picks up on them.
Do what you’d normally do when you like a guy just to see how he responds.
6. Gauge his interest
Now that you’re hinting about how you feel, start paying attention to how he responds.
You should also just keep an eye on his behavior in general. Now that you have a crush on him, you may notice him doing and saying certain things that indicate just how much he likes you.
You just never really noticed before because you didn’t pay attention to it.
Once you start flirting, see if he flirts back.
If he does, it could prove that there are some intense mutual feelings at play.
7. Weigh the pros and cons
As with any crush, there are pros and cons to moving forward with it.
This one is especially risky since he’s your friend. Are you willing to risk losing your friendship if things don’t really work out?
Being friends with an ex isn’t the easiest thing in the world and if you don’t think you can be, you may have to face losing him in all forms if you want to be together now.
If the pros outweigh the cons go for it. Make your move and see if he’s on the same page as you.
8. Go for it
Now that you’ve decided the risk is worth the reward, it’s time to do something about it.
You have a crush on him. You really like him! Make your move and see where it goes.
You can easily flirt with him, initiate one-on-one hangouts, and even tell him how you feel. It might not be easy at first but if he’s showing signs of liking you back, it’s definitely something to pursue.
It’s hard to know what to do if you have a crush on your guy friend. Do you go for it and risk losing the friendship or do you let the fleeting feelings flee after their time is up?
These tips can help you figure out what steps to take when you catch feelings for him.