How to Start a Conversation With a Guy in 5 Easy Steps

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Let’s be real. You want to find that special guy, fall madly in love, and live your own version of happily ever after.
First, though, you have to figure out how to start a conversation with a guy.
You can’t just hop from initially seeing him to walking down the aisle without all the stuff in between.
And there’s a lot of stuff in between.

What you have to figure out isn’t just how to start a conversation with a guy, but also how to maintain that conversation and move it to more intimate topics.
Here’s how you can snag yourself a keeper just by talking to him in a way that’ll leave him captivated and always wanting more.

1. Don’t force it

The worst thing you can do is to force a conversation with a guy. If he’s busy chatting with friends and is basically ignoring you, it’s not the best idea to try to talk right then.
Continuing trying to talk to him in this state will only be annoying. And that’ll make him form that opinion of you right away.
It’s extremely hard to come back from being labeled as annoying so do your best to avoid this from the outset.

2. Look at your surroundings

What you need in order to start a conversation with a guy is a topic, right? You have to have something to discuss in the first place.
And in order to figure out what that is, just take a look around.
Where are you two? Is he paying attention to the TV at the sports bar or chatting with some friends nearby?
Maybe he’s even sitting alone at the bar staring into the empty abyss of his drink.
This is all material you can use. Bring up the game and ask who he’s rooting for.
Ask what he’s celebrating if it seems like he’s doing so with friends. Then let the conversation move on from there.

3. Eavesdrop a little

Yes, you can overhear stuff he’s talking about. Why? Because it might give you a way to place yourself into the conversation.
He could easily be talking to a friend about something you’re familiar with or can chime in on.
It’s a great way to sneak into the discussion and keep the conversation going from one that was already started.

4. Start with a question

This should preferably be a question about him that’s open ended.
Don’t try to get him talking with a yes-or-no question because that obviously leaves no room for the conversation to go anywhere.
Keep your questions open-ended and ask a lot of them. Why is he out tonight? Does he actually listen to the band on his t-shirt? Is he staying out for longer?

5. Let him start it

Sometimes you just have to let the guy start a conversation. One way to do this is to just let him see that you’re interested.
Make eye contact and basically lure him over with your gaze. So long as he gets the hint to come over and talk to you, the conversation can get started.

Tips for Keeping the Conversation Going

Now that you’ve successfully figured out how to start a conversation with a guy, it’s time to crank it up a notch and actually keep it going.
Because what’s the point of starting if you’re just going to let it fizzle out to nothing?

1. Have some ideas in mind beforehand

If you go up to a guy with a blank mind, it won’t go well. It might seem a little amateurish to have a list of ideas to talk about, but it really does work.
And since you need some help, it’s the best idea for you. Jot down some ideas before you go out or run through a list in your head before making your way over to him.
This will help the conversation continue even after the topic has ended.

2. Smile and be engaged

The more a guy thinks you’re into him, the more likely he’ll want to keep the conversation going too.
So be sure to smile, flirt, and just seem interested overall. You can even lean into him and get closer so he gets the hint that you want to keep talking.
Slide your coat off, drape it over the back of the seat, and get comfortable. This will help him see that you want the conversation to continue.

3. Ask questions often

A conversation can’t go anywhere if both people aren’t trying. That means you have to be asking questions throughout the discussion.
If you talk about his distaste for a certain band or show, ask him to elaborate.
Get him to open up a bit more and the conversation will keep flowing simply because you have so much material to work with.

4. Connect what he’s saying to your life

Now’s the time to show him you have stuff in common, to show him you have a deeper connection already.
Guys want to find someone they click with just as much as you do.
So in order to keep the conversation going strong, keep pointing out these similarities and he’ll want you to stick around.
Obviously, these have to be honest connections. Don’t just make stuff up for the sake of the conversation because he’ll find out the truth eventually, and he’ll be annoyed.

5. Let it roll on naturally

As many tips as I can give you, this one is the best. Just let it be natural.
Let it carry on naturally because if you try to change the subject because you needed to ask a question but the conversation is moving too quickly for that, it’ll ruin things.
Just let it go. If you truly have a connection with someone, the conversation will basically drive itself.
The first step to connecting is to figure out how to start a conversation with a guy. Once you have that down, it’ll be easier to meet new guys and find that special person.
Don’t forget that you can trigger his desire for you with the RIGHT words.
But you’ve got to learn what to say and how to say it. Don’t worry– That’s why we made our Dirty Talking Secrets manual to teach YOU how to become a puppetmaster simply by speaking the right words in perfect timing synchronized with the ultimate body language.