How To Spice Things Up In The Bedroom: 8 Things To Try Out Tonight

How To Spice Things Up In The Bedroom: 8 Things To Try Out Tonight

how to spice things up in the bedroom

Let’s be honest.

It’s easy to get stuck in a sexual rut.

Between kids, work, and your basic daily tasks, it’s hard to feel excited about being alone with your man.

In fact, you’ve probably had sex in the exact same locations, same poses, and the same way for months, if not years now.

The most intimate experience two humans can share has turned into a boring routine.

You need to shake things up.

Here are some ideas about how to spice things up in the bedroom.


The “No Touch” Arousal Secret

Imagine having your man think about you – and only you - all day… rushing home to be with you…sweeping you off your legs and then deliciously ravaging you in the bedroom with the desire and passion he had for you when you first started dating.

Sounds like a fantasy, right?

Well, it won’t be.

It’s actually completely within your reach.

You only need to master one special skill to make it come true:

Talking dirty.

Now, you might think that talking dirty means acting like some porn star or a phone sex operator.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

Talking dirty means bringing out the sexiest you and showing it to your man.

I could go on, but if you want to find out more, check out this article I wrote on the topic.

It’s All About Location

sex in the bathroom

Admit it.

You can’t even remember the last time you had sex outside of your bed.

It’s ok, I won’t judge.

But you definitely need to expand your horizons.

Having sex outside is one of the best adrenaline rushes you can experience with your partner.

At the beach, in a park, in the bathroom of a bar…the world is your oyster.

And don’t tell your man that you want to do it beforehand… this is one of the situations where surprise is essential.

Trust me, he’ll thank you for it later.

Toys Are Not Just For Kids

Well…these toys definitely are not for kids.

But sex toys should definitely have a place in your bedroom.

Good sex toys add variety, spice, and fun to your sex life without costing much time or money.

Now you need to be careful.

If you have a 7-inch dildo, it’s probably not the best idea to use it during sex – it might cause your man to feel inadequate.

But blindfolds, lubricants, and handcuffs are a great place to start.

And speaking of handcuffs…

Add Some “50 Shades Of Grey” To Your Sex Life

50 shades of grey

Domination. Tying you up. Spanking.

These are all fun stuff to do with your partner.

Now, if you only had missionary sex for the last 5 years, it’s probably not the best idea to go out and buy seven different whips and a torture rack.

Start small.

Ask your partner to be a little rougher the next time you’re having sex.

From there, you can introduce handcuffs, light spanking, and choking.

After that the only limit is your imagination.

Give Him A Peep Show

Men are highly visual creatures.

We mostly get turned on by what we see.

That’s why so many guys watch porn – it’s tailor made to feed our visual sexuality.

That also means you can make him desire you and only you in a very simple way:

Give him a striptease show.

Now, the key to success here is building anticipation and tension.

You accomplish this by going slow.

You don’t want to go to fast, otherwise you’ll end the tension prematurely.

Also, don’t let him try to end the show by begging you to start having sex.

If he’s aroused now, he will be ten times hornier by the time you’re finished.

And sex will be ten times better.

So when he tries to initiate sex during your striptease act, gently push him away and tell him to have some patience.

Trust me, it’s for his own good.

Become His BJ Queen

Most guys like blowjobs more than sex.

They feel amazing, we don’t have a condom on, and we don’t have to do anything but lie there and enjoy.

It sounds selfish, but that’s the truth.

That’s why it’s so disheartening to hear how few women like to give blowjobs.

And of those few that do, even less do it the right way.

You see, the key to a good blowjob isn’t some secret tongue technique or a special bj position.

It’s the attitude.

Specifically, the attitude of enthusiasm and desire.

We want you to show us that there isn’t anything you’d like more than to give us a perfect blowjob.

Sounds silly, right?

Well, yeah – men can be that way sometimes.

But it’s how we feel and we can’t change that.

On the plus side, finding a woman who loves giving blowjobs AND is good at giving them is like finding a unicorn.

That’s why when we do find one we definitely try to hold on to her.

Now, the only thing you can do is learn how to give a good blowjob.

Be His Sexy Nurse

sexy nurse

…or a police officer. Or a maid.

Regardless of the role you play, bringing imagination and acting in your sex life can go a long way.

When you’re in a character you can say and do things you could never do as your usual self.

This gives you the permission to be as slutty and wild as you want, without being judged by your husband or boyfriend.

After all, it’s just acting, right?


So use this opportunity to let loose and enjoy having fun, guilt-free sex with your man.

When In Doubt, Change The Position

Quick question:

How many sex positions do you know?

Missionary, cowgirl, doggy style?

Check, check, and check.

But if that’s the extent of your knowledge, you’re in big trouble.

If you only have sex in couple of lame, boring positions every time, then no matter what you do your sex life isn’t going to be exciting.

The truth is that experimenting with new sex positions is the best way to spice things up in the bedroom.

If you want some ideas where to start, check out this massive list of best sex positions.

Now this article was long, so you’re probably asking yourself what’s the best place to get started.

The answer is easy:

Dirty talk.

With just a couple of words and phrases, you can both spice things up in the bedroom and have him burning with desire for you and only you.

It’s a win win situation.

But it’s difficult to get started talking dirty.

You don’t know what to say, or you might feel silly when it comes to saying some lines.

It’s ok, I completely understand.

That’s why I’ve created Dirty Talking Secrets – your ultimate guide for women who want to learn how to talk dirty and improve their relationships.

Check it out here.

About the author

Mike Morgan

Relationship and sex coach. Author of Dirty Talking Secrets. Editor in Chief at