You're Doing It Wrong: The Right Way To Make Your Husband Happy

You’re Doing It Wrong: The Right Way To Make Your Husband Happy

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If you're a newlywed, here's the harsh truth: marriage is hard work. If you've been married for a while now, you’ll already know this.

Anyone who says differently is simply unaware of the reality.

But us girls have all read our fair share of fairytales and seen the romantic movies where marriage is just a "happily ever after."

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However, the truth is that we don't see what happens next.

We don't see how Prince Charming leaves his dirty socks all around the castle, and we don't see how our favorite chick-flick protagonists fight over whose turn it is to get up when the baby starts crying in the middle of the night.

No, we don't see any of that. So we tend to live with an illusion that marriage is a breeze. Everything miraculously works out.

And then we get married and realize things are not so simple.

We've all heard of the saying "happy wife, happy life." But, what about the husbands? For a strong marriage, you need to learn how to keep your man happy.

And I don't mean being a perfect wife from the ‘50s who sacrifices herself to satisfy her husband.

I mean doing the little things that ultimately make you both happier and make your marriage last.

Here's what you need to start practicing right now if you want to make your husband happy.

Surprise him.

After years together, your relationship may get stuck in a rut. But that doesn't mean you can't shake things up.

Surprise your hubby by doing something unexpected every now and then.

Buy him that fishing rod he can't stop talking about, suggest you try something new in bed or make him his favorite meal when you know he's having a bad bay.

These little things will put a smile on his face and remind him why he fell in love with you in the first place.

Take care of yourself.

We all get a little comfortable in a long-term relationship and we tend to let ourselves go.

It happens to both men and women.

But you should still try to find time to take care of yourself and look good even after years of marriage.

Now don't get me wrong. I'm not saying you should walk around the house with full makeup and high heels all day.

But if you hit the gym a few times a week, treat yourself to a spa day once every few months and put some makeup on when you're going out, you will boost your confidence and feel much better in your own skin.

And your husband will definitely appreciate having such a radiant woman by his side.

Maintain intimacy.

We hear this story all the time. Two people get married and their sex life eventually becomes non-existent.

We hear it so often that we started believing that's just how things work in a marriage.

But it doesn’t need to be so. If you want your marriage to last and your husband to be happy, you will need to maintain intimacy.

Kiss your man at least once a day, even if you're in a hurry. Give him a sensual massage at the end of a long day.

Don't wait for your hubby to initiate sex, you do it.

And learn some sexy new tricks you can try in the bedroom.

In those moments, forget about all the problems and chores you need to do and just enjoy each other.

Show him you appreciate him.

Men are often insecure even though they don't let it show like we do. They love to feel appreciated, needed and respected.

As his wife, you're supposed to be his biggest support and his number one fan. You're supposed to show him how much you love and appreciate him every day.

You don't need to do anything huge here. Just tell him how awesome he is, remind him why you love him, say thank you when he helps you with something.

Even if he doesn't show it, trust me, his heart will light up when he hears those words from the most important woman in his life.

Trust him.

Jealousy has destroyed many marriages and you need to make sure that it doesn't destroy yours.

If your man hasn't given you a reason to doubt him, you will need to learn to control your jealousy and trust him.

Don't snoop around his phone and computer, don't interrogate him when he returns from a night out with his friends and don't argue with him unless you have a good reason.

Remember, a little jealousy is healthy for a relationship and you should definitely confront your husband if you have a legit reason for suspicion.

But a good man deserves your trust, and jealousy will only drive him away.

Pick your battles.

Women are often considered to be the naggers in relationships. We tend to criticize too much and pick fights over each and every little problem.

Even if it's hard to admit, this is generally true.

But here's the thing. By nagging and criticizing, we often create unnecessary conflicts in our relationships. You see, sometimes you just need to let some things go.

What I'm saying is: pick your battles. There will be some issues you won't be able to get over, and you should absolutely talk them out with your partner, calmly and respectfully.

But if it's something small that you can live with, just get over it and move on.

Your husband will be a much happier, more relaxed man and that will make your whole family happier.

Learn when to give him space.

Just because you're married, it doesn't mean you should do everything together. You are still two different individuals, each with their own personality, interests and hobbies.

To nurture your marriage, you will need to spend time together, pursue common interests and have fun.

But for a healthier relationship, you will also need to learn when to give your hubby some space to do his own thing.

Encourage him to hang out with his boys, to take up a hobby and do more of the things he loves.

Or just give him some peace when he's relaxing at home, reading a book, playing a game or watching TV.

In turn, use that time to do the things you love, and you will both appreciate your time together even more.

Yes, marriage is hard work, but it's worth the effort.

Remember that your husband is your biggest support and your partner for life. So making him happy is incredibly important for yours and his sake.

No matter how long you've been together, show him you appreciate him, trust him and keep the spark alive.

And if your marriage is on the rocks, be sure to visit Save My Marriage Today.

It’s got everything you need to know to turn things around, right now.

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Amy Shaw

Professional writer. Marketing aficionado. Digital nomad wannabe. When I'm not writing, I'm probably discovering new places around the city, drinking some good beer with friends or dancing.