Loving someone is hard enough.
Loving a player is so much harder.
Not only are you in love with a person who isn't in love with you, they are also actively sleeping with - or trying to sleep with - other women.
So what can you do about it? How to make a player fall in love with you?
It's not easy, but it's doable.
Here's what you need to do.
Understand His Mindset
First we’ve got to understand the psychology of a player.
The good news is that players are not very complicated people; you just need to understand one important thing.
Players have a strong sexual appetite.
Not much different from the average man though, right?
True, but players seem to have a natural ability to read women’s emotions. Players have an intuitive sense of the buttons they need to press to get a result from a woman.
It’s this ability, whether innate or learned, that makes a player who he is. He has the skills to get most of the women he desires.
Most men take what they are given.
Think about this for a second, and put yourself into the shoes of a player.
Wouldn’t you be just the same?
Maybe not forever, but you’d like to live that life even just to try it.
This is an important point for us to remember. You shouldn’t hate on players. It will cloud your judgment and cause you to make mistakes when trying to make a player fall in love with you.
Because that’s why you’re here, right?
Let’s look a little more into the mind of the player.
Let me share a secret with you. Players get tired of being players.
Yep, that’s not a typing error.
Players find dating and sleeping around tiring, draining, and, at the end of it all, unfulfilling.
Players become jaded with life.
A player is fighting against his natural urges, urges which drive his behavior and cause him to seek out quantity instead of quality in the dating world.
His urges usually win, until the point where he is so jaded that he chooses to settle with one woman as he starts to get older.
Now, I know what you’re thinking: it wouldn’t be so bad to be the woman who finally tames him, right?
Wrong. It could be that he’s settling with you, and he’s not approaching your relationship with the same passion of his past life.
Don’t be that woman.
Instead, you want to be the woman who captures him during his prime. The point in his life where he doesn’t know he’s ready to be tamed by you.
And every player is just waiting for that woman. Someone who gets them. Someone who can satisfy their intense sexual appetites.
The trouble is that most women either don’t know, or don’t care enough, to learn how to become a man’s sexual goddess, whether he’s a player or not.
Your Competition Is Usually Lazy
Most women want to do the bare minimum.
Most women think that by copying their friends, or what they see in the movies, they’ll get the man of their dreams.
Most women just don’t take the time to learn about what the real secret is for how to make a player fall in love with you.
But before we get to the golden secret, you need to make sure you’re covering some important bases.
First things first. Don’t allow him to be the only man in your life.
Before you’ve captured the player’s heart, you need to make sure you play your cards right.
Develop connections with other men. Create options for yourself. It will make you feel less invested in him.
This doesn’t mean you need to sleep around. This just means that without other men in your life, you’re more likely to put all your eggs in one basket.
You don’t want to do this. Why? Because if he thinks you’re always available for him, he’ll think that you’re already his.
He needs to find you challenging.
He needs to know that you’re in demand and that he has competition.
Second, build on this appearance of being in demand by creating a dimension of scarcity.
The most valuable things in life are scarce because they’re hard to find, and even harder to replace.
Use this to your advantage.
If he says he’ll call you tomorrow, but he calls the day after, make sure to wait a day before answering or calling him back.
Make Him Play Your Games
Let him subtly know that you’re not his plaything and that you’re too busy to play his games.
Differentiate yourself from the other women in his life.
He’ll expect you to quickly call him back because that’s what the other women do.
He’ll expect you to be ready to meet him at a moment’s notice because that’s what the other women do.
And what happens with the other women?
He discards them once he’s bored with them. Don’t be just another woman to him.
Next, make him wait for sex. Make him sweat and doubt himself from time to time.
Make him ask himself, “why aren’t my usual tricks working with this girl?”
If he learns to expect it as soon as he starts to see you, he will start to lose interest.
I don’t need to tell you why it’s important that he doesn’t lose interest.
With so many other women to choose from, keeping his interest is what will make you unique in his eyes.
I’m assuming that by this stage you’ve got everything locked down. You’re playing hard to get, but not too hard. You’re making him wait for sex but you’re letting him know that it will come also.
Now we can finally talk about the secret of how to make a player fall in love with you.
A Man's Largest Erogenous Zone
It doesn’t require you to change who you are, or to compromise on your standards. You don’t have to pretend to be somebody you’re not. And you most definitely don’t need to become a slut to pull this off.
The truth is simple. The key to a player’s heart is your ability to satisfy him sexually.
And we’re not talking about satisfying his anatomy sexually; we’re talking about stimulating his largest sex organ – his brain.
Players can get sex from many different women. They’re usually sleeping with a few women on a regular basis. They get a little bit of everything from each woman.
But what they really want is to get everything from one woman.
It’s easy to learn how to satisfy a man physically. Any woman can learn that.
But how can you get deep into his mind, and learn the secrets of connecting with him on a deeper sexual level?
Learn to talk dirty to your man.
It’s really that simple.
But some women don’t like the sound of this. Talking dirty sounds a little, well, dirty.
And yet these same women wonder why they can’t keep their man, and others wonder where their man goes when they’re making love and he closes his eyes and his mind wanders away.
Talking dirty to the player you’re seeing is guaranteed to transform how he sees you.
Build Tension Slowly
Now, we’re not talking about going from zero to sixty in three seconds flat.
Talking dirty has more to it than saying some cheap words in a smutty voice.
Talking dirty involves slowly building sexual tension with your man using the various means available to you.
Touching him is easy, and the player will be used to that.
But how often does he hear a woman whisper something deeply intimate into his ear, something unique to him that he has shared with you as you’ve got him to open up to you?
How often does he receive steamy text messages from a woman, messages containing the most secret of his fantasies?
And how often does he get these communiqués during the course of his day – at work, at the gym, on the bus?
The player in your life just won’t know how to deal with your seductive mastery. He won’t know how to handle himself as he experiences your sexual messages.
He will be overcome with intense feelings that he just doesn’t experience with other women.
The thing with players is that they’re just like other men. They are dying to live out their deepest and darkest fantasies with the special woman in their lives.
But most men feel shy or embarrassed by their fantasies. They don’t feel comfortable sharing them with their woman.
Believe it or not, most men will keep these intense thoughts to themselves – for their whole lives.
Why do they use porn? Why do they fantasize about other thoughts during sex?
They are escaping into their deep, arousing fantasies.
(If you want to learn how to talk dirty and have him obsess over you, be sure to check out our Dirty Talking Secrets guide.)
Getting Him To Open Up To You
All men would love to feel comfortable enough to open up to their women.
It’s up to you, as that woman, to learn how to get your man to open up to you.
The good news is that by learning to talk dirty you will gain access to the very knowledge that allows you to make these deep and intimate connections with the man in your life.
Because the truth is that men use porn not because the porn models are hotter than you, and not because the sex positions are wilder.
It’s because the porn models behave so that men feel like men.
But ask any man and they will tell you that if they had a choice between watching porn forever or having a woman in real life to enact their fantasies – well, the choice is obvious.
So you’re nodding your head in agreement. But asking yourself how?
How can I get the player in my life to change his ways and become so into me that no other woman matters to him?
How can I get him addicted to me?
How can I get him to obsess over me?
Too many women worry needlessly about the player they want to make theirs.
They worry about all the other women in his life. They worry that they’ll lose him.
They worry that he’ll lose interest in them.
But rarely do women ask about how to make a player fall in love with you.
This Powerful Knowledge Is At Your Fingertips
You’re reading this because you want to know how. You want to learn about what you can do to keep your player from straying.
You want to know what to do to make him yours, and only yours.
I want to warn you that learning to talk dirty to a man takes a bit of time and practice. But these are skills that you learn only once. After that, you never forget them.
You’ll learn how to push the right buttons and at the right time. You’ll learn what to say, and how to create your own unique dirty talk vocabulary.
You’ll learn about when is the right time to use dirty talk, and you’ll understand when is not.
You’ll be amazed at the effect your words will have on your man. You’ll be even more amazed to see how the player you fell for, has now fallen for you.
Always remember that players are just waiting for the right woman to come into their lives. They don’t want to be players their whole lives. No good man does.
It’s time for you to be that woman. To be that woman who gets into the player’s mind, and then his heart.
By learning to talk dirty you will equip yourself with the very skills you need to tame him.
You’ll connect with him on a level he’s just not used to. He’ll come to see you as a drug, a woman he cannot live without.
So that is there. And you are here.
Take the first step and make him yours.
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