At the beginning of the relationship, every guy makes more of an effort to impress the woman.
But as it progresses and you gradually become comfortable with each other, the things that he used to do to impress you eventually stop.
To put it simply, he’s taking you for granted. He’s stopped appreciating everything you do for him and it’s making you consider whether you should walk away.
He expects you to always be there, which is why he’s now making very little effort in the relationship.
You need to show him that if he keeps neglecting you then you’ll walk out of his life. It’s the kind of wake-up call that he needs.
If he does genuinely care about you then he’ll realize that he needs to start treating you better.
Here’s how to make a guy realize he’s losing you.
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1. Start ignoring his messages
If the main reason you’re frustrated with this guy is the time he takes to reply to your texts or his lack of communication then it’s time to turn the tables and see how he likes it.
He probably expects to hear from you all the time, so if you suddenly cut off all communication he’s going to start worrying.
After he doesn’t hear from you for a while, he’s going to start thinking that you’re losing interest.
You might think that this could have the reverse effect and push him further away from you, but trust me, it will make him realize that he needs to start making more effort before he loses you for good.
2. Stop making an effort
At this point, he expects too much from you. Perhaps he takes for granted all of the small things you do like cook his dinner, plan dates, and do his grocery shopping.
As soon as you stop doing these nice things for him he’s going to have to do them himself and that will be a big wake up call.
He’ll quickly realize that he needs to stop being so reliant on you and learn how to stand on his own two feet.
Maybe then you can work on fixing your relationship so it doesn’t feel so one-sided.
3. Go out by yourself
So many couples get into a routine where they never leave the house without their partner but that break from each other could be great for your relationship.
Don’t forget that absence makes the heart grow fonder.
It’s unhealthy to spend all of your time with your partner. Go out with your friends for the night and leave him at home.
Don’t check your phone while you’re out and try not to think about what he’s doing.
Being more independent will show him that he’s missing out and this will probably make him realize how much he needs you in his life.
If not, at least you know that you can have a great time without him!
4. Be less available
Are you always available whenever he wants to see you? Do you reply to his messages and answer his calls immediately? Perhaps you should start being distant.
If he thinks that you’re always going to be there whenever he needs you, then he could start taking you for granted.
He’s become so comfortable that he can’t see that you’re slipping away from him.
Acting distant and taking longer to reply to his messages is a good way to get his attention. He’ll notice that you’re acting off with him and that’s exactly what you want.
You want him to start worrying about a life without you in it because that will encourage him to start putting more effort into the relationship.
5. Give him the silent treatment
The silent treatment might sound childish but it will make him realize that something is clearly wrong.
Sometimes, words aren’t enough. You have to show him that what he’s doing is slowly pushing you away from him. He needs to see it with his own eyes.
If he notices you’re not talking as much as you used to or showing him any physical affection, then he’s going to start thinking about how to make things right between you again.
Chances are, he doesn’t want to lose you and he’ll make sure that doesn’t happen.
6. Suggest a break
Taking a break could save your relationship or it could make you realize that you’re better off being single. Either way, it will make things clearer.
Perhaps it won’t actually go that far. Suggesting a break could be the wakeup call that he needs.
If he thinks that you’re seriously considering leaving him he’s going to be really worried and that might be enough for him to change the way he’s been acting.
7. Leave him out of your plans
It might sound harsh to not include your boyfriend in your plans, especially if you usually do things together, but it’s a good way to make him see that you’re not reliant on him.
You don’t need him to hold your hand all of the time.
Be evasive about your nights out and don’t let him hear the details. It will probably drive him crazy not knowing and he’ll realize that you’re being distant for a reason.
This could spark a reaction in him; he might act jealous, annoyed or upset that you’re acting differently.
You need him to start questioning why you’re acting off with him. Try and make him wonder what he’s done to upset you.
He’ll start panicking that he’s about to lose you and that’s the kind of scare that he needs to start treating you better.
8. Tell him that he’s losing you
Sometimes you have to be completely honest even if it’s the last thing you want to do.
You should open up to him about how you’ve been feeling lately, or why you’re unhappy in the relationship and see how he reacts to that.
After all, he’s not a mind-reader. Telling him that he’s pushing you away is the best way to make a guy realize that he’s losing you.
Naturally, though, you want to avoid having to need any of these tricks in the first place. So be honest and tell him that if he doesn’t pull it together, you won’t be there.