Once the honeymoon period of a relationship is over, we all know that there’s a bit of an adjustment period where both partners re-calibrate, so to speak. This is when you get to determine what the rest of your life together can be like and test whether you truly know how to keep a man.
A healthy, loving relationship has more to do with choices that the partners make, both individually and together, regarding the relationship and their own priorities, more than anything else.
Here are a few ways that you can keep your man happily in love with you, long after the first date.
Don’t Forget to Be Yourself
Often, in long-term relationships, you tend to lose sight of your sense of identity. Don’t forget that your partner has chosen to be with you for who you are, and if you change who that person is, consequently, the relationship too will change.
Respecting yourself consistently through every stage of the relationship is the way to go. Be considerate to your partner’s needs, but not to the extent that you are taken for granted, or accept being treated as a doormat.
When a woman takes care of herself and is able to understand and meet her own needs, she exudes natural confidence, and there is really nothing more attractive than this.
Retain your natural sense of curiosity and wonder, and don’t forget the charming movies, music and any other interests that brought the two of you together. Reminding him about the small things that matter from time to time is important if you want to know how to keep a man.
This glowing confidence from a woman who knows what she wants and what she likes extends to her body and self-image as well.
The physical connection between you and your partner is something that is going to evolve over time, along with your bodies and the various stages of life you see through together.
Having body confidence is integral; regardless of any weight gain or loss, surgeries, stretch marks, accidents, and anything else life might throw your way, the idea is to retain your individuality and remain comfortable in your own skin.
Appreciate and Compliment Him
Popular media and pop culture have always made it out to be as though women are the only people who have doubts about their weight, appearance, or those who deal with self-image issues; this notion is grossly inaccurate.
Men love compliments as much as anyone, especially when they are genuine. They like that you pick up on the small things, and appreciate them for it; whether you’re letting them know they smell extra-good today or that the new haircut is making them look damn fine, don’t hesitate to dish out the next compliment!
Besides these appearance-based compliments, more meaningful compliments about how you appreciate how much he does for the family, how you support his dreams and endeavors, and appreciate his efforts would really mean the world to him.
Men are often under a lot of pressure to be the breadwinner for the family and this does take a toll on them over time. How well they are able to provide for their family is also seen to be a reflection of their abilities.
To be sensitive to this oversimplification and to ask him how his day went, are small things you can incorporate into your day-to-day routine to help you understand how to keep a man and how to bring you two closer, even through the rainy days.
If your partner works from home and takes care of the kids, all the more respect to him. It takes a truly perseverant soul to brave both deadlines and diapers in the same day, so don’t forget to acknowledge this. Let him know how much you appreciate it!
Try to Keep an Open Mind
This is perhaps one the of the most commonly-overlooked areas of relationships, as they evolve.
Keeping an open mind to each other’s expanding list of interests, sex and sense of alone time is integral to a healthy relationship in which both individuals can grow.
New Interests or Shared Activities
Whether it’s trying out that new restaurant that he’d had his eye on or a new hobby that he would like pursue, encourage your partner to broaden his horizons.
The more avenues of his own personality he explores, the happier he is going to be and this sense of personal wellness and fulfilment undoubtedly spills over to relationships as well.
If he’s going through a rough patch in his life, be his rock and reinforce your belief in him. Men may appear “macho” or “tough” but they’re human beings with emotions that need an outlet.
If you are able to create that safe space that he is able to completely be himself in, he will never be able to forget it. So tell him he’s doing a great job, and you’re proud of him, and just watch his face light up.
Every person has their own preferences and tastes, when it comes to sex. As a couple grows together over the years, their sex life is also bound to evolve.
If you want to keep things interesting in the bedroom, make sure you and your partner are able to talk freely about what you like, and what you don’t, in a way that is completely devoid of judgment. All the better if you can giggle over it!
For how important a part of a relationship sex is, it isn’t discussed half as often as it should be.
As long as no one is getting hurt or clashing with your values, there’s no harm in trying anything out just once and gauging the experience for yourself.
What do you have to lose? Introduce some of your own ideas that you want to try out as well, to keep the spark alive. You’ll find great sex can add a lot of value to other areas of your life.
If something he suggests really does freak you out, try to subtly convey your feelings without making him feel like his kink is “weird” or disgusting. That’s the last thing anyone needs.
As important as it is for you two to spend time together as a couple, it is equally important that you get your own space.
Trust him when he’s out with colleagues or “the boys” and enjoy your own time to yourself. By retaining a personal sense of space and individual identity, you have the chance to create a respectful relationship that is transparent and honest.
We hope this gives you a clearer idea of how to go about keeping a man happily in love with you because, at the end of the day, it means a happier you.
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