How To Give A Blowjob: The Ultimate Guide - Romancoholic

How To Give A Blowjob: The Ultimate Guide

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When it comes to pleasing your man and keeping him satisfied, blowjobs are definitely the way to go.

As far as stuff men love in bed, a blowjob is pretty much always at the top.

For some reason, it’s one of those things guys love receiving. However, women aren’t as excited to give them, most of the time.

Why?

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Because they don’t do much for us. It might be arousing to see your man all excited and watch his eyes roll back in ecstasy, but that’s about as far as it goes for us.

That being said, it can be even more rewarding if you’re doing it right. Plus, the more your man loves your blowjobs, the more he’ll return the favor.

But you can’t just go down on him for a few minutes and then call it quits. Here’s how to give a blowjob he’ll have a very hard time ever forgetting.

What NOT to do

Believe it or not, there’s a pretty long list of things you should avoid when going down on your man.

Remember to never do these things or you’ll end up ruining the blowjob. (and the mood)

1. Complain

Not all women like to give head. That’s fine, but if you still want to make your man enjoy you going down on him anyways, keep your complaints to yourself.

There’s nothing that’ll ruin the mood faster than you being annoyed with having to give him head. He won’t want it if you do this.

And that’s not a good way to get out of it, either. If he truly wants it and you’re not willing to do things for him in the bedroom, he’ll start to resent you.

Having a healthy sex life is give-and-take. You both do some stuff you’re not all that thrilled about. Just keep quiet if you’re not into it just yet.

2. Be silent

You know what’s awkward? A silent blowjob. It might sound weird because you can’t really say anything while your mouth is full.

But you can still be vocal with moaning and sounds of pleasure. Guys get really turned on by the sound of a woman moaning.

It’s a great way to add another layer of excitement to the blowjob.

Just don’t be completely silent. You can talk dirty and moan in order to arouse him more and avoid that awkward silence.

3. Use teeth

This is the worst thing you can do during a blowjob. Make sure your lips are wrapped around your teeth at all times.

You never want to end up grating your teeth against him. That’s not pleasurable by any means and it hurts him quite a bit. Just imagine what that would feel like!

If you’re worried about doing this, all you really have to do is put a finger in your own mouth, and practice. If you feel teeth, fix it until you don’t.

You can always ask him what feels good and what doesn’t. He’ll be able to tell you what to do a lot better in this case.

4. Be bored

We get it. The blowjob isn’t the most exciting thing for you. That’s perfectly fine.

You just don’t want to make him feel like you’re super bored with what you’re doing.

Guys want you to enjoy going down on them. Otherwise, it’ll just feel like he’s forcing you. And that’s not fun unless you take part in a BDSM-type relationship.

If you don’t, he’ll just feel bad and guilty if you’re bored.

At least act like you’re having a really great time, even if you’re not someone who enjoys blowjobs.

5. Ask if he’s almost there

Don’t do this. He’ll feel rushed and that’ll only lead to him taking longer. And that’s not to mention the fact that it makes him feel like you’re not having fun.

You don’t ever ask when something will be over if you’re enjoying it, right?

If you’re worried about him busting in your mouth and you agreed you didn’t want to do that, don’t be. If you discussed it beforehand, he’ll follow through.

Be patient and just focus on making it feel really good. The better it is, the less time you’ll have to be on your knees.

What to do

If you really want to know how to give a blowjob and actually make him moan in glorious bliss, this is what you should do.

Keep in mind that every guy is different and will prefer different methods.

Know what he likes and use these tips accordingly. You’ll have him begging for more blowjobs by doing these things.

1. Be enthusiastic

Imagine a guy getting ready to go down on you. Instead of acting like he can’t wait to get down there, he rolls his eyes, sighs, and just goes to town.

That’s not very arousing, is it? So why would you act the same way?

One of the biggest turn-ons during a blowjob is how into it the girl gets. If you’re excited and ready to go and actually want to do it, he’ll be blown away.

So make an effort to get pumped. Think about how much he’s going to love it and let that put you in the right mood.

2. Ask what he likes

There’s nothing that’ll make the blowjob you give him amazing like asking him what he wants.

Not only do you make it obvious that you actually care about his needs, but you’ll also be giving him what he truly likes.

You can learn a lot this way too. If he’s honest with you, you’ll be tailoring the blowjob to meet his specific needs.

You can even make this sound really sexy by doing it dirty-talk style. Just whisper in his ear, “tell me exactly what you want me to do,” and watch him go nuts.

He’ll appreciate it more than you know and it’ll turn him on more than anything else.

3. Work up to it

Guys like foreplay too. Although a blowjob is usually considered foreplay before the main event, you can still work up to one and make it the main event.

Make out with him. Turn him on in every way you know how so he’s nearly bursting when you actually get to the blowjob.

You can start slow by just kissing, then move onto some serious making out while you touch him all over.

Talking a little dirty to him about what you’re going to do to him will also help a lot.

Just make sure he’s ready for it when you get down there by taking your time. There’s no need to get right to it.

4. Make it a big deal

This is his moment. You’re doing something specifically for him and now’s the time to make it known.

Many people just go right into the blowjob and it’s just like any other day. In order to make it amazing, make sure he knows it’s a big event.

The more you psych him up mentally, the more he’ll physically get excited.

So don’t think it’s just a typical blowjob. Make every single one a big deal and he’ll start to see it that way too.

5. Use your hands

Knowing how to give a blowjob is about your hands just as much as it is about your mouth.

While you can definitely give one without using your hands, putting them to use can do a lot more for you.

Not only can you easily change the pressure this way, but the sensation is completely different. It’s like a handjob with an added mouth, so that makes it even better.

Just remember not to use them if he prefers you only using your mouth. Pay attention to how he reacts and work accordingly.

6. Change hand positions

You really can’t just put your hands in one place and leave them there the whole time. The entire point of using your hands is to make them an asset.

They’ll make the blowjob a lot better if you change up the pressure and position of them.

For example, you can hold one at the base while you use the other as an extension of your mouth.

Or you can also put both hands around it and use a twisting motion as you focus your mouth on his head.

It really just depends on what your man likes best.

7. Be soft with your lips

There isn’t much that feels good about hard lips. You do want to wrap them around your teeth, but you also want to maintain a softness about them.

If you can unwrap them and free your teeth, make sure they’re puckered out so you still don’t end up raking your teeth again him.

The softer they are, the better it’ll feel for him so just keep this in mind.

8. Focus on the head

The head is where all those wonderful nerve-endings are for a guy. And there’s also this little thing on the underside of the head called the frenulum.

It’s basically a tight strip of skin that houses a ton of nerve endings. What you can do with this is rub your tongue against it extra hard while giving him a blowjob.

Not only will it make you focus on the tip, but it’ll make it feel even better simply because you’re putting extra pressure where there are more nerve endings.

Just remember to change things up and don’t do this the entire time.

9. Change up the speed

You just want to have some variety overall. Nobody likes the same thing over and over again. He’ll get used to the sensation and it won’t keep things interesting enough to get him off.

What you really want to focus on is switching things up every now and then. Do one thing for a while and slowly transition into something else.

For example, do this with speed. Not every guy wants a hard and fast blowjob. Some want it slow for a while and others want a good combination of both.

After going fast for a bit, slow things way down and take it deep. He’ll go crazy over this move and won’t know what to expect next–something that can really up the anticipation.

10. Touch yourself

Who says a blowjob is all about him? Sure, he might not be doing any work, but you can still have fun at the same time.

In fact, he might be even more turned on if you do touch yourself. Guys think it’s really hot when girls lend themselves a hand.

Plus, he might think you’re doing it because you’re so turned on by giving him head.

11. Play with his balls

Don’t forget this area! Of course, you always want to ask him ahead of time because some guys really don’t like their balls being touched too much.

Others, however, love it! It’s a very sensitive part that can do a lot for you if you know how to touch them right.

Use gentle hands and squeeze them lightly. You can even pull on them very lightly or move your mouth to that area.

Have fun with it and try something new!

12. Have him change positions

Learning how to give a blowjob doesn’t require you to be on your knees all the time. There are tons of different positions you can get into in order to do this.

Plus, being on your knees while he stands will just make your knees tired and you’ll get annoyed if it takes longer.

A better position would be to have him lay down and you lay on top of him. Really, you can try whichever positions you want.

13. Do it in fun locations

Ever heard of road head? Probably. Blowjobs can be done in all sorts of places because they don’t really require nudity.

Which means you should be doing them all over the place. There are tons of different ways you can get away with giving your man a blowjob while out and about.

Get creative and watch him light up just by the mention of giving him one somewhere.

14. Surprise him with it

To a guy, there’s not much better than a surprise blowjob. He’ll be over the moon that you’re the one who initiated it to begin with.

Oftentimes, guys have to beg their women to go down on them and that’s never really fun. If you bring it up and make it a surprise, it’ll be all the more special and meaningful.

15. Focus entirely on his pleasure

This should be your main goal with giving a blowjob. It’s a selfless act and you have to truly make it that.

Focus on him and make it all about his pleasure. He’ll be thrilled no matter what, but knowing you want to make him feel incredible is more meaningful than you know.

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About the author

Bella Pope

Bella is a lifestyle and online marketing writer, cheese enthusiast (Wisconsin native over here), Writing Youtuber, and fantasy adventure author-in-progress who enjoys all things dog, pizza, and writing related.