You’re out with your friends enjoying a tasty glass of wine, and you notice an attractive man at a table close to you.
Maybe you’re at the store, picking up some groceries when you spot a hot guy further down the aisle.
Or perhaps you’re waiting to cross the street and there’s a cute guy waiting beside you.
How are you to get a guy to notice you in these situations?
Especially before the moment has passed and he’s gone?
But by unique I don’t claim that they’re original to me.
No, I mean that they’re sort of thinking outside the box methods – but still respectable so that he won’t think you’re a bit weird.
Of course, you’ve got to get the basics covered before you have even a chance of him noticing you.
You’ve got to look good. Now, this doesn’t mean you need to look like a supermodel.
But you have to do your best with what you have. If you’re unhappy with your body or appearance, get to the gym, eat well and be positive.
Remember, most guys are totally happy with normal girls.
You know how important manners are in the professional world, but you should also apply this to the dating world.
Be a good person, and your positive energy will also work to attract him into your world.
And whatever you do, make sure you avoid these common turn-offs for guys.
1. Ask For Directions Or Help
Let’s imagine the possibilities for a second.
This cute guy that you want to talk to could be the man who ends up spending his life with you.
So what’s wrong with using a little trick to get an excuse to talk to him?
Ok, you may not need help or directions, but ask him anyway.
He’s probably lost in thought, imagining everything he needs to do at work, and what he has to get finished by the end of the week.
So it’s not his fault that he didn’t notice you at the store, or at lunchtime at the local deli.
But it will be your fault if you don’t make the first move.
If you’re at the store, ask him if a particular item is good, or what would be a better choice.
It could be cheese, or wine, or even a sauce. The best thing with this tip is that if he turns out to be a dud, you didn’t embarrass yourself in front of anybody.
2. Give Him Strong Eye Contact
A sure way to figure out whether he’s cute and confident, or just plain cute, is to lock eyes with his and watch his reaction.
Does he immediately look away, or look to the floor?
Chances are that he’s not a confident guy, and he’s intimidated by you.
Most women will find this unattractive in a man, but if you don’t mind it, just remember that you’ll have to use one of the other tips if you want to get talking to him.
On the other hand, if he meets your gaze, and smiles at you, and he holds eye contact, you know that he likes what he sees.
He’s also going to approach you immediately or find a way to do it discretely.
Now, approaching women is a big deal for every guy. It strikes fear into us, and even the most experienced players get a rush of anxiety when they attempt it.
So make it easy for him. Put your phone down, make sure there’s an empty chair or space beside you, and angle your body towards his.
Show him you’re open and welcoming him.
3. Walk Right Up To Him And Tell Him You Think He’s Cute
Right, this one is not for every woman.
But it’s guaranteed to get his attention.
I mean, he can’t not notice you when you’re in front of him and saying hello.
This tip depends on how much you want him.
And perhaps you’ve had a couple of glasses of wine, so you feel a little braver after your liquid courage.
Just remember, the worst that can happen is that he’ll politely turn you down. No man ever tries to rudely dismiss a girl the way women routinely do it to men.
But, on the upside, it could be the move that sweeps you into a passionate and enduring relationship.
4. Send Him A Drink At The Bar
Is it early on in the evening?
Maybe you’ve just arrived at the bar and your friend texted to say she’ll be late.
Try this one on for size.
Ask the waiter for your drink, and then a drink for the handsome gentleman you spotted at a nearby table.
It doesn’t matter whether he’s alone, or with friends.
Ask the waiter to buy the next round for him, with your compliments.
Be prepared for him to look over at you, so sit straight and look your best.
You don’t have to make eye contact.
He’ll come over and thank you for the drink. Whatever happens next is anybody’s guess.
But at the very least you’ll have potentially made something happen from nothing.
Just don’t be shy. Smile and enjoy the moment you created.
5. Show off your beautiful personality
Chin-up, be confident. You are a CATCH!
For men and women, confidence is a trait that makes you look attractive and interesting.
You want to show you’re confidence! Body language is the most important thing you have to keep in mind.
Look people in the eye, smile more (a lot more), stand tall, and focus on the things that makes you feel good about yourself – Your accomplishments, your talents… When you talk about things that are positive for you, it will show!
I know, I know…. you’ve probably heard it before and it might sound a bit like a cliché, that doesn’t make it less effective and true…
It doesn’t mean you have to constantly remind yourself to do these things but just be mindful of them and use them more often.
You are beautiful and you have a wonderful personality.
LET IT SHINE!