Gone are the days when being a doting wife meant sitting dolled up in the evening, waiting for your man to return home. The 80’s and 90’s were the years of finishing and grooming schools for women, prepping them on how to be a better wife so her husband could show her off in their social circle.
But this is 2018, and while this piece isn’t going to tell you how to turn yourself into a prettily dressed, ideal wife, it sure will give you a few pieces of advice on how to make sure your man keeps loving and adoring you more and more, with each passing day.
Respect His Space
This is really a no-brainer as far relationships go. Being in love doesn’t mean taking up every inch of space in your partner‘s life and head.
Don’t expect him to be up for a serious conversation right after a long day at work, or make him feel bad about hanging out with his friends without you. Give him his space when he needs it; it will only mean he puts in a lot more effort and love when you two have your time together.
Get to Know Him Well
Successful, happy couples do this right. If you love your man, take the effort to really get to know him. What makes him happy, what worries him, what excites him or makes him angry.
Find out what his favourite songs are, what he loves to drink, songs he loves, or even his favourite team; the list can go on and on.
Find out the little quirks that make him the adorable person he is. There’s something beautiful about discovering these little things about your partner.
Not only will it make him feel that you genuinely care, he will love all the conversations you will be able to have once you realize you may even have something in common.
Surprise Him Often
Why should he be the one to always make dinner reservations and show up with flowers? Woo him like the confident, beautiful woman you are.
Plan surprise dates for him and let them be about something he truly enjoys. If your man can watch your favorite mushy film just for you, why shouldn’t you return the favor?
Surprises don’t always have to be big – a sweet note slipped in with breakfast, a comforting back rub at the end of a long day, a chilled beer when he’s watching his game – really, how much time do these little but meaningful gestures take?
Keep Things Sizzling
Be loving and caring but don’t smother him with love. Take a break from your usual ways of loving him and throw in some sexy surprises.
It doesn’t hurt to channel your inner goddess and experiment with some new lingerie, or something like a sensual massage on the weekend. All of this will keep reminding your husband how lucky he is to have you and he will only reciprocate with more love.
Talk Things Out
Yes, every relationship has its ups and downs, and he may have his flaws, but so do you. It isn’t about not complaining or pointing out something that you don’t like.
You have every right to, but there’s a fine line between being honest and being insensitive, or nagging him. Have clear conversations about things like household chores, and if you do have a fight, don’t drag it over the week by sulking and nagging at every chance you get.
He’s likely to listen and respond by acting on it when you speak to him in a calm voice rather than by making him feel like a child by constantly bickering about something.
Make Him Respect You
If you want to learn how to be a better wife you’ve got to invest in yourself. Show your husband how you really are, as a person; what values and beliefs matter to you.
It doesn’t matter if you’re a professional or a stay-at-home mom, but you need to get him to see how much you put into everything you do and let him know, that along with loving and caring for you, he also must respect you for the person you are.
A confident, self-assured woman is always attractive and he’ll find himself thinking about how fabulous you are each time he sees your eyes sparkle with confidence. And if you worry that he doesn’t respect you, check these signs to know for certain.
Make Him Feel Special
A couple of decades ago you could have brought him a meal on a tray and fixed his tie, but today’s men are (thankfully) more evolved and less man-child.
Doesn’t mean you shouldn't cook him his favorite meal anymore, but also think of different ways to let him know he’s loved. Attention, love and pampering: it’s always a two-way street, so if you want to get some, you’re going to have to give some too.
Go all out. You don’t have to wait for your anniversary to throw him a surprise. The next time you’re out, dedicate his favourite song to him, and watch him radiate with happiness and love for you.
Listen When He’s Talking…
…About something that he’s really excited about, whether it’s a childhood memory (even if you’ve heard it a million times), a vacation plan or last night’s match.
Sometimes, making your man feel truly special, is just about listening, and listening well.
Be Nice to His Folks
It’s always nice to let your husband know that you value his family and friends and find the time to catch up with them.
Show your husband that you’re willing to get to know the people who mean a lot to him and make sure you both get to spend time with the people you love.
Compliment Him Often
Take every opportunity you get to tell your husband what you love about him, be it a particular shirt or a great fragrance, or even the things about him that you really like, whether it’s his smile, the way his eyes crinkle when he smiles, or how much you enjoy the way he holds you, or kisses you.
Be thankful when he does something genuine. Who doesn’t like being flattered, after all?
Be His Closest Friend
You may be spouses, but that’s no reason why you can’t be friends. He is going to love you and cherish you if he realizes he can trust you and talk to you about anything.
It’s difficult for most men to be comfortable being vulnerable and tender, but if you’re patient, caring and understanding, your relationship will become a safe space he can keep coming back to.
This will also work wonders on your communication as a couple; he won’t fret about having to hide things from you, which is a big plus as far as trust is concerned.
You’ll soon see that getting your husband to adore you isn’t too difficult, especially if you’re trying hard to learn how to be a better wife.
A little effort from your end will go a long way in making sure he treats you like the queen you are.
And if you want to know more about how keep things steady in your relationship with your husband, check out some of the great tips and advice at Save My Marriage Today.