How Long To Wait Between Dates? The Answer Will Surprise You

How Long To Wait Between Dates? The Answer Will Surprise You

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Ever dated someone whom you liked so much? For sure, you’ve struggled with how long between dates you should wait.

Should you play hard to get because it’s a mortal sin to break dating rules? Or should you just give in and go out with him the moment he asks?

I feel you. The struggle is real.


You’ll get varying pieces of advice about how long between dates you should wait.

Here are five important pointers to help you make the best decision.

How Long Do You Wait Between Dates? 7 Important Rules To Keep In Mind

When it comes to dating, I’m a firm believer that you should move at your own pace.

By that, I mean moving at a pace you’re comfortable with. But you don’t want to move too fast or too slow.

I know it can be quite confusing. To help you strike the right balance, here are seven rules to keep in mind and live by.

1. Let him get in touch with you first.

You’ve often wondered and asked, should I text him? It’s a normal question to ask especially if you like the guy you’ve started seeing.

But here’s the thing.

A man who finds you irresistible won’t leave you guessing about how he feels about you.

The moment you step out of the restaurant or the movie house, he’ll usually text you to say thanks and he’ll want to see you again.

If it’s been more than a day or two and you haven’t received any text message, stop making excuses for him. He didn’t get robbed on his way home or lose his phone.

He’s probably not interested so don’t bother reaching out to him anymore.

2. Don’t wait too long to say yes.

Let’s say he already texted you, asking for a second date. Your heart skipped a beat and you wanted to say yes.

No matter how much you’re tempted to, don’t give him what he wants to hear…yet.

Instead, tell him that you’ll check your schedule and get back to him within the day. This way, he’ll know that you’re not cheap and easy-to-get.

Then get back to him before the end of day as you’ve said.

When you do, he’ll realize that you’re a woman of your word and someone’s who’s truly worth pursuing.

3. Lock down the next date in advance.

You may have a hectic schedule. It may be the same for him.

For this reason, it’s best to try to anticipate how busy both of your calendars may be.

Wait for him to take the initiative in locking down your next date. However, it doesn’t mean that you can’t be the one to start it.

If you decide to do so, remember to pick a date far enough out to give him about sufficient notice. This way, the chances of him being able to save that night for you will be higher.

4. Stay connected.

In between dates, I suggest that you continue your communication with him through text messaging or phone calls.

During this phase, here’s a friendly reminder. Don’t act overly chummy.

It’s one of the most common dating mistakes women make when seeing someone they really like.

When communicating with him, let him do most of the talking. Keep your responses short but sweet.

Don’t ever feel the need to talk a lot about yourself so you can keep the air of mystery surrounding you intact.

More importantly, don’t give him the stop-start vibe by going MIA with your communication and then reappearing after.

Doing so may cause the momentum and interest between the two of you to fizzle out or, worse, completely die out.

5. Space out your dates in close succession.

The rule of thumb is to have subsequent dates spaced out a week or two. So work around each other’s schedules.

If for any reason you can’t be at the time and place you both agreed upon in advance, make a call the earliest you can.

This will prevent him from worrying about you and thinking you’ve ghosted him.

6. Try something new on the second and following dates.

If you’ve spent your first date having a fancy dinner at a restaurant, spend the next one walking in a park.

You can also suggest grabbing food at a cozy tea room.

By being comfortable with a change of scenery, you’re able to show him that you’re not afraid to explore.

It encourages both of you to not stay within your comfort zone while opening new opportunities to share a deeper connection.

7. Don’t get too personal too soon.

It’s okay to be very open and upfront about your relationship history.

However, it doesn’t mean that you should lay bare all the details of your past relationships to him this early.

Remember, there’s plenty of time to discuss about more serious stuff down the line if your date goes well.

For now, stick to talking about fun stuff and just make the most of the moment.

Indeed, there is no clear-cut answer to how long between dates you should wait. Each circumstance is unique and must be judged accordingly.

But by following this advice, making the right decisions about how long to wait between dates should be a piece of cake for you.

Just stick to the rules as if your dating life depended on them (it does!)

Attracting the man you genuinely desire on your first date (and those to come) isn’t as complicated as it seems. It’s as simple as knowing how to understand men.

The next step is learning how to use what you have to Wrap Him Around Your Finger.

This in-depth advice guide explains everything you need to know to find the right man for you, and to hold on to him, forever.

About the author

Maine Bel

Maine Belonio is a twenty-something mom and writer who has a penchant for coffee, long distance running, Tolkien, Switchfoot, and Jesus.