How Do I Know If He Likes Me Or Just Wants To Sleep With Me?

How Do I Know If He Likes Me Or Just Wants To Sleep With Me?

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Men are sometimes hard to read. This is especially annoying if you wonder how do I know if he likes me or just wants to sleep with me.

There are probably a few reasons but, for the most part, it's because we women have the tendency to overthink things like this.

If you want to know how to understand men it's going to be easier if you don't overthink things.

Yes, the guy you're seeing now may be playing mind games with you but that’s not likely. Men are not really into mind games. They are generally straightforward compared to us.

Sure, guys aren’t exactly known for having a way with words but if you know what to look for, you won't have a hard time figuring him and his intentions out.

9 Signs He Just Wants To Sleep With You

So you're asking yourself, "how do I know if he likes me or just wants to sleep with me?"

Here are 9 glaring signs that tell the dude you're seeing right now just wants to get into your pants.

1. He texts you only at night.

If you’re getting text messages from him from 10 PM to 3 AM, asking if you want to hang out, don’t fool yourself.

It’s a booty call.

2. He calls you hot.

Notice how he compliments you. If he tells you you’re hot and focuses on praising your physical appearance, he’s obviously attracted to you.

But before you jump up and down in delight because he called you hot, hear me out.

If you’ve never heard him complimenting you on your other qualities, it can be a sign that he’s only focused on your physical beauty.

That isn’t a good thing now or down the line.

3. He asks you to come over to his place and watch a movie.

Let’s be real here.

He’s asking you to come over his place because he wants to see if he can get from you what men want in bed.

4. He is self-absorbed.

How are your day to day conversations with him? Did he ever ask you about your dreams and aspirations?

Did he ever opened up about a topic where he can get more information about who you are as a person?

5. He doesn't remember any of the things you've told him.

Say there were times that you were able to talk about yourself and the things you believe in.

Did he listen as you told him about the things you’re passionate about?

If you mention it again and he acts like it’s the first time he’s hearing it, that’s because you didn’t have his full attention in the first place.

6. He keeps his walls high.

Either he’s got some trust issues or...

...He doesn’t want to confide in you at all because he doesn’t have any plans to get attached and stick around for good.

7. He's interested in having sex only.

How will you know this is a guy all about getting off with a little help from you?

All your conversations, in and outside the bedroom, revolve around ideas on how to please him in bed.

8. He introduces you to no one.

How long have you been seeing each other?

If it’s been quite a few months and you haven’t seen any of his friends or family members, it means he doesn’t want you knowing them.

9. He sleeps with you and then leaves.

He doesn’t stay the night because he isn’t interested in cuddling with you.

He’s not interested in pillow talk because he only wants to sleep with you.

Nothing more. Nothing less.

9 Signs He Likes You And Wants To Date You

Figuring out whether your man wants to just sleep with you or if he intends to stay around isn’t that hard. Here are 9 signs that tell you it’s the latter.

1. He texts you in the morning and after work.

When he sends you a text in the morning, it means you're on his mind the moment he wakes up.

Sending you a text after work means he's excited to give you his undivided attention after a long day on the job.

2. He asks you out for coffee.

In the few short weeks that you've known each other, he's been consistent with asking you out.

It's his way of letting you know he's in no rush in getting his way with you.

3. He makes the effort to get to know you better.

Aside from regularly asking you out on dates, he's communicates well with you.

For example he asks you about your day and actually listens to what you have to say.

4. He remembers everything you say.

Listening is one thing. Remembering all the crucial details of his conversation with you is another.

But, lucky for you, he shows you he's good at both because he's serious about wanting to date you.

5. He lets you in.

When he’s ready to share his thoughts, he doesn't just ramble on about nonsense.

Instead, he lets down his guard and lets you in on the deepest part of his soul because he trusts you and wants you to feel the same.

6. He wants to do things other than sex with you.

Does he ask you to join him in hitting the gym or the park for a quick workout? Does he introduce you to new music?

It's because he wants you to see that he's not all about getting into your pants.

7. He introduces you to his buddies.

You've met his friends and their girlfriends because that's how proud he is that you're his girl.

8. He sleeps with you and then cuddles with you after.

Does he stay the night so he can cuddle with you after your hot make out session? Does he make breakfast for you the morning after?

Pay attention to these small but significant signs…

9. He talks about a future with you in it.

A guy who wants to date you isn't just focused on the present. He's got plans for the future and by that I mean a plan that involves you.

The best way to know if the guy you’re with wants to date you is to not sleep with him…not until he’s made his intentions clear to you

You’ve got to make him work for it so you don’t become just another hookup to him.

About the author

Maine Bel

Maine Belonio is a twenty-something mom and writer who has a penchant for coffee, long distance running, Tolkien, Switchfoot, and Jesus.