Want to know if he is the one you have a future with?
Wondering if you are not wasting your time?
We wrote down 11 Important things to note and ask yourself to know better if you both have a future together
As women, we always want to know if there is a future with him shortly after we start dating, most women are not big fans of “just going with the flow”.
This is especially true for women who want to get married and have kids. You can’t afford to waste time with men who are still in their experimental phase.
You need a man who knows what he wants and acts on it.
Men are not as complicated as we may believe. It is very easy to tell if your relationship is headed somewhere.
So if you want to know if your relationship has a future these are things you should look out for:
1. Is he listening to you
Want to know if your boyfriend listens?
You said in a passing that you like floral dress shirts and a few days later he surprises you with one. Girl, that’s a keeper.
When he does things that you mentioned to him and doesn’t need constant reminders, he’s listening.
Many relations hit a dead end because the man hardly listens when you speak. If I wanted to talk and get no response I would go to the park and talk to birds!
2. Is he buying you gifts
He’s a keeper if he buys you thoughtful gifts. I would take a hand-made picture of us decorated with macaroni art over a Birkin bag. Women love gifts that have sentimental meaning attached to them because they show it took time and thought to make that for YOU.
An expensive bag is nice every once in a while but you do not want your man throwing money around just so it seems like he cares. The best gifts cost nothing.
3. Are you sexually satisfied
We all love to get our freak on right? But when it’s between two people who love each other, the act should show it.
If your man comes in for a few “pumps”, finishes and then turns around and goes to sleep… that is not someone who envisions a future with you. Physical intimacy is very important in a lasting relationship.
Sex should not be selfish, he should aim to please you as well, he should be asking you what YOU want and do that. It’s a give and take. If all he does is take, he doesn’t treasure you. Find ways to spice things up in the bedroom to try and rekindle the flame in the bedroom.
There is nothing sexier than when a man who genuinely wants to please you as much as possible. I mean, that is all the lubrication you need.
4. Using the word “we” in future plans
Want to know if there is a future for the two of you? He stopped saying ‘I’ and started using ‘us’. How sexy is a man who tells his friends, “we don’t eat meat anymore” without you even being there?
Girl, if you have been dating for two years and he still uses I in every sentence even when the topic includes you, you have not been oriented in his future. Don’t waste your time.
5. Meeting his friends
Have you met any of his friends after two years of dating? If the answer is no, get packing, you are wasting your time. A man who sees you in his future will introduce you to his friends and family.
Does he tell you to stop being pushy if you ask to meet his friends? There’s probably another girl he has introduced them to.
Don’t waste your time forcing yourself on him and his life. Take your power back, know your worth, and walk out.
There is always a better man who deserves you.
6. Space in his house
Do you have a space to put your things in the house? If after a year of dating you still have to carry your things back and forth including your toothbrush, stop wasting your time.
A man who sees a future with you will give you a place to put your things so that you can show up at his place and not worry about tomorrow’s outfit.
After a while, you’ll get a key depending on the stage of the relationship.
We all dated someone who would not even put out a toothbrush. If that’s the case, there are probably a few more girls coming to the house.
7. Conversations about the future
Have you talked about when you would want to get married?
How many kids do you want to have if any?
Where do you want to live?
Has this topic come up after a year of dating? If not, you need to re-evaluate your relationship. If he avoids this topic like the plague, he probably doesn’t want any of these things in his future.
You need to find a good man.
8. Does he take you to work events
Men are very protective of their workplace reputation and only introduce girls they are very serious about to their co-workers.
If you have never met any of his colleagues or you don’t even know where he works, it’s because that’s how he wants it.
The whole point of dating is to find out if you are compatible in all aspects including work (obviously). You usually find out where he works within the first or second date so if it has been a year and you still don’t know, that’s a red flag.
9. Taking interest in your career
When was the last time he asked about your work? Your career is a big part of who you are so if he is not interested at all, you should think twice.
A man who wants a future with you will want to be involved in your progress and even contribute to it. I mean, if he wants a future with you, he will want it to be a bright one.
So if he could care less, you shouldn’t be there.
No one wants to share a life with someone they do not trust. Trust is one of the key things to a healthy and thriving relationship. So if you spend your nights wondering when he will come home and not knowing where he is, your future with this man will be sad.
And you deserve better!
Real men know what they want and if he wants you, he will make sure you are happy and at peace with everything he does.
He will not give you any reason not to trust him.
11. Making time for you
In this day and age, we’re all working hard building careers, but we always make time for our loved ones.
If your man only sees you when he has time to spare, you are not a priority in his life. He should be able to have time for you no matter how busy he is.
Guess what? People make time for what is important to them.
If he has time to go and watch the game, then he has time to spend with you as well.
As a woman, you need to know exactly what you want so that you won’t waste time with men who cannot commit. I have learned over the years that wasting time on the wrong man can have horrible effects on your mental health.
Use these tips and I promise you will find your soulmate.
This journey has its ups and downs but the destination is beautiful.